Comments on: Life Fail http://www.snell-pym.org.uk/archives/2009/06/19/life-fail/ Sarah and Alaric Snell-Pym living in interesting times Tue, 22 May 2012 23:35:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: angie http://www.snell-pym.org.uk/archives/2009/06/19/life-fail/comment-page-1/#comment-97543 angie Mon, 22 Jun 2009 18:26:01 +0000 http://www.snell-pym.org.uk/?p=1458#comment-97543 <p>Alaric, Len hasn't stopped coming down. We are in the process of getting the cheapest ticket possible for next Tuesday. We will just have to play each time by ear. I would like to come down towards the middle of July, and am working towards doing this. It is time that Sarah's benefits were applied for. She has been unwell now since before Jean was born and should have been claiming all this time. She may not have worked but she did the University course. Time to apply. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. We have not and will not desert the pair of you. My having gone into hospital again caused a severe hicough.</p> <p>It is hard at present but it is not always going to be like this. However, much some of your so called friends do not understand the relationship between you and Sarah and you and Jean, this can last because Len and I still have this relationship after 30 years +.</p> <p>Hopefully, Len will be down Tuesday 1st till the 5th. We miss you all.</p> <p>love Angie</p> Alaric, Len hasn't stopped coming down. We are in the process of getting the cheapest ticket possible for next Tuesday. We will just have to play each time by ear. I would like to come down towards the middle of July, and am working towards doing this. It is time that Sarah's benefits were applied for. She has been unwell now since before Jean was born and should have been claiming all this time. She may not have worked but she did the University course. Time to apply. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. We have not and will not desert the pair of you. My having gone into hospital again caused a severe hicough.

It is hard at present but it is not always going to be like this. However, much some of your so called friends do not understand the relationship between you and Sarah and you and Jean, this can last because Len and I still have this relationship after 30 years +.

Hopefully, Len will be down Tuesday 1st till the 5th. We miss you all.

love Angie

]]> By: Ella http://www.snell-pym.org.uk/archives/2009/06/19/life-fail/comment-page-1/#comment-97516 Ella Mon, 22 Jun 2009 09:23:58 +0000 http://www.snell-pym.org.uk/?p=1458#comment-97516 <p>Hi Al,</p> <p>I'm not surprised that you've had enough with the awful one week on, one week off working issue. I think that if you're not being paid contractor rates then it simply isn't worth your time to continue working there (unless you can work out a deal where you work from home and only go to London, say, one day a week). I'm not that, even if you are being paid contractor rates, it's worth it.</p> <p>I would suggest that you work out your finances, see how much benefits you can claim, then leave your previous job and look for contracting positions where you are. If you can get enough benefit to cover your food/petrol/childcare for a few months that is. Can you persuade Barbara to stop charging you rent whilst you sort things out? You could go to a temp agency in Chelt. whilst you look for something else.</p> <p>On a, perhaps less than useful note, Oli reckons IBM would employ you as a contractor in a shot and he could give a good reference for you. I could ask him if they're hiring (as in on the closed market). But, for that to solve the problem, it would mean you and your family relocating to Hampshire, otherwise you'd still be commuting.</p> <p>I hope you can work something out. I think if you make the move back to Chelt. then you'd find something.</p> Hi Al,

I'm not surprised that you've had enough with the awful one week on, one week off working issue. I think that if you're not being paid contractor rates then it simply isn't worth your time to continue working there (unless you can work out a deal where you work from home and only go to London, say, one day a week). I'm not that, even if you are being paid contractor rates, it's worth it.

I would suggest that you work out your finances, see how much benefits you can claim, then leave your previous job and look for contracting positions where you are. If you can get enough benefit to cover your food/petrol/childcare for a few months that is. Can you persuade Barbara to stop charging you rent whilst you sort things out? You could go to a temp agency in Chelt. whilst you look for something else.

On a, perhaps less than useful note, Oli reckons IBM would employ you as a contractor in a shot and he could give a good reference for you. I could ask him if they're hiring (as in on the closed market). But, for that to solve the problem, it would mean you and your family relocating to Hampshire, otherwise you'd still be commuting.

I hope you can work something out. I think if you make the move back to Chelt. then you'd find something.

]]> By: Becca http://www.snell-pym.org.uk/archives/2009/06/19/life-fail/comment-page-1/#comment-97487 Becca Sun, 21 Jun 2009 18:15:47 +0000 http://www.snell-pym.org.uk/?p=1458#comment-97487 <p>Hey guys, I know you guys haven't had the best run of luck in recent years. A lot of people are struggling financially at the mo (including us with two houses!!!!). To tide us over I have been slowly selling off random stuff I own (old books, textbooks, gadgets and things I haven't used in a while). I managed to sell £150 worth of stuff on ebay in about 2 weeks. Olly is happy I'm sorting through our stuff LOL! I'm sure you guys could do the same.</p> <p>The other thing is that Sarah may be eligible for incapacity benefit http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/DisabledPeople/FinancialSupport/DG_10016082</p> <p>and then also be eligible for housing benefit and council tax reduction. That would relinquish most of your living costs.....</p> <p>Also Al, have you considered working for a University rather than industry? There are a few in your region!</p> Hey guys, I know you guys haven't had the best run of luck in recent years. A lot of people are struggling financially at the mo (including us with two houses!!!!). To tide us over I have been slowly selling off random stuff I own (old books, textbooks, gadgets and things I haven't used in a while). I managed to sell £150 worth of stuff on ebay in about 2 weeks. Olly is happy I'm sorting through our stuff LOL! I'm sure you guys could do the same.

The other thing is that Sarah may be eligible for incapacity benefit http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/DisabledPeople/FinancialSupport/DG_10016082

and then also be eligible for housing benefit and council tax reduction. That would relinquish most of your living costs.....

Also Al, have you considered working for a University rather than industry? There are a few in your region!

]]> By: Sarah http://www.snell-pym.org.uk/archives/2009/06/19/life-fail/comment-page-1/#comment-97425 Sarah Sat, 20 Jun 2009 14:28:27 +0000 http://www.snell-pym.org.uk/?p=1458#comment-97425 <p>Thanks Cakemix</p> Thanks Cakemix

]]> By: Sarah http://www.snell-pym.org.uk/archives/2009/06/19/life-fail/comment-page-1/#comment-97424 Sarah Sat, 20 Jun 2009 14:28:07 +0000 http://www.snell-pym.org.uk/?p=1458#comment-97424 <p>Thankyou! But part of the problem is how much time Alaric is spending away from me and Jean - its really eating into him :(</p> <p>Plus yours and Robs party is within that time frame!</p> <p>I am also seeing the Dr alot at the Mo so don't want to interupt that.</p> <p>Sarah</p> Thankyou! But part of the problem is how much time Alaric is spending away from me and Jean - its really eating into him :(

Plus yours and Robs party is within that time frame!

I am also seeing the Dr alot at the Mo so don't want to interupt that.

Sarah

]]> By: Ulrike http://www.snell-pym.org.uk/archives/2009/06/19/life-fail/comment-page-1/#comment-97410 Ulrike Sat, 20 Jun 2009 09:16:13 +0000 http://www.snell-pym.org.uk/?p=1458#comment-97410 <p>If Sarah and Jean would like to come up and spend the next two months with us, it would be fine. We will try and clear out more space on the top floor, and they could have some sort of extended vacation.</p> <p>While it has never been as bad for us as it has been for the three of you, I know what it is like to always have that sword of damocles hanging over your head. If we can help out in that way, please do let us know.</p> <p>Sending hugs out to the three of you, if you want to talk, we are there.</p> If Sarah and Jean would like to come up and spend the next two months with us, it would be fine. We will try and clear out more space on the top floor, and they could have some sort of extended vacation.

While it has never been as bad for us as it has been for the three of you, I know what it is like to always have that sword of damocles hanging over your head. If we can help out in that way, please do let us know.

Sending hugs out to the three of you, if you want to talk, we are there.

]]> By: cakemix http://www.snell-pym.org.uk/archives/2009/06/19/life-fail/comment-page-1/#comment-97363 cakemix Fri, 19 Jun 2009 16:58:23 +0000 http://www.snell-pym.org.uk/?p=1458#comment-97363 <p>i so wish i felt better and was just round the corner to come round to give you all the biggest cuddles ever...love you loads x</p> i so wish i felt better and was just round the corner to come round to give you all the biggest cuddles ever...love you loads x

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