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Mirror Baby and Baby Sign

On Wednesday Mary discovered Mirror Baby - this is the baby in the mirror - when Jean used to be sad we would show her mirror baby and point out the sad baby and that if she smiled it would cheer up!

Mary like Jean has locked onto the image of another human and like she is doing with everybody - smiling her little head off

Then we come to baby sign and something that I'm sure can not be happening yet but even one keeps commenting on it and I thought it myself. If Mary is not wailing but hungry she makes little mah noises and then once you pick her up does what appears to be the milk sign in baby sign. I assume it is just because it is the sort of movement babies make anyway. Jean is very excited about this but then according to Jean Mary pulled all the cloths off the side in her bedroom and has conversations with her :/

Either way I respond to it as if it is baby sign in the hope that she will notice - when I do this I get milk - hmm it's the same thing everyone does when talking about 'food'.

Pain Flare

I have lots more cute pics and lots of things to write about but I am having to be very careful - I am in pain flare up mode - I don't mean the seperated pelvis I mean the muscle spasms and dull aching, the fire, shooting pains and being stuck by pins. Alot of the muscle pain has been muted during the pregnancy - spasms were less due to the pregnancy hormone but now they are crashing back.

So I am having to pace things and juggle various issues like sleep, breast feeding, anemia and pain management for things that need different treatments.

But bare with me and pics of baby will be forth coming!

The Weight Plateu

Well when I came out of hospital I was 13 st, the following week I had lost 3 pounds, then by last week I was 12 and a half stone - today I am still 12 and a half I have reached my first weight platue

But on the plus side this is weight loss with just breast feeding and shuffling around the house abit but mostly sitting breast feeding or sleeping. Come Monday I feel that my wound will be heeled enough for me to attempt walking with the crutches. I did another outing and this time did not see stars or go sideways with dizzyness on route to the car though I still got very very tired after a mere half an hour driving in the car. The wound is still weeping a little but feels much better so I really feel that I can tackle walking (with crutches) if the anemia will allow it.

I will start with our drive way and progress to going for coffees in Cheltenham. I am hoping that some walking everyday will not only help the seperated pelvis but also help me reach the next weight platoe.

In fact I have a things fixed in my head as a progress for the fitness and weight loss. First off in another two weeks I will be able to start physio. Depending on how my wound is by then I will be able to go swimming and start pilates. However I feel that starting all these things at once will take up too much time and money plus more importantly make me very tired having gone from nothing to everything so I am going to stagger it. I am going to wait to talk to the physio over what to do first.

Eventually I want to take up belly dancing but that I think needs to wait until the crutches are gone. It is also rather expensive so may have to be instead of pilates and swimming or something.

Anyway - expect more moaning about weight.

Tantrums and Baby Behaviour

Jean has mostly been lovely with Mary, happily sitting cuddling the baby and being concerned when she cries. This is unless people announce they are here to see the baby (rather than Jean and the baby) or people have been hugging the baby too much (in Jean's opinion). The baby is very much Jean's so there is a two fold jelousy which we hadn't expected - as in Jean is jelous of the baby getting attention but also of the fact that the baby is with people other than her (mummy and daddy don't seem to count in this which is a relief as it means we can hug and look after the baby with no screaming ab-dabs).

The absolute worse case is my Mum holding the baby for too long - Jean starts trying to prize the baby off of Nanny and the more she is told to leave the baby alone the worse it gets. But next comes other people visiting who want to talk to mummy and or hold the baby - this results in Jean saying that she doesn't like said people or that Mary doesn't like them and that the people should go away. Generally this all calms down but yesterday it resulted in a trantrum and her sitting her room shouting and crying until she went to sleep (which was a relief in itself as she has been getting up early and going to sleep late since the baby was born as she wants to see the baby and play etc.. this has been exhorsting).

I feel really embarrassed when she does this but at the same time it is no where near as bad as we were expecting! The help booklet the NHS says that sometimes the older child does not initially love the baby - normally they love the baby even if they don't always like it but you can't assume this will be the case. Jean loves Mary very much and has from the word go.

But Jeany has been wanting more cuddles, Daddy to carry her up the stairs and in from the car, help getting dressed and wanting to pretend to be burped. This is known as Baby Behaviour - Jean is the mild end of the spectrum with some kids wetting themselves :/

Jean needs to feel looked after too and all those things the baby is getting done for her Jean wants done too. The books say to not say no to this behaviour continously. I think Jeany's mainly doing ok with this whole little sister thing and the main issue has been people taking up my time or me trying to sleep and not doing the Mary, Jean, Mummy time - Jean gets furious if this happens and starts trying to shove the reading books or films into my hands as I'm trying to talk to people

It has been particually intense this week as it is half term and people are visiting nearly everyday.